We’ve all been there: the moment when you have to have the first conversation with someone you’re interested in. While it’s always been important to make a good first impression, your first phone or in-person conversation is even more important. When we are nervous and anxious, it is hard to express ourselves in an intelligent and meaningful way. Here are some tips to keep close by to help you ace your first conversations.
- All Equal!
No matter how confident the person, everyone gets nervous about first-time conversations. It will help ease your nerves if you remember that the other person is also in the same situation. Ask questions and really tune in and engage in the topics that the other person is talking about.
- Be Grateful
Thank the person for sharing their number with you. Don’t overdue the thank you or you may come off creepy or desperate but show that you are an appreciative person and are not afraid of expressing it.
- Compliment, Compliment, Compliment
A great way to ease out of an uncomfortable subject is to mention something you like about them that they have specifically shared with you.
- Be Grateful Pt. 2
The end of the call should include another thank you, perhaps something as simple as “thank you for taking the time to chat.” If you liked what you heard, don’t be afraid to schedule a date or another time to talk on the phone. This will let the person know that you are interested and want to spend more time getting to know them.