It can be difficult to be a successful woman and find fulfillment in the dating scene. Men seem to be intimidated by success and therefore driven away. This was recently proven in a study done by a team of female psychologists and their results were published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology’s August 2013 edition. Seeing it in print can be really disheartening but there are ways you can improve your chances and find the right one who will appreciate you for who you are:
1. Start with you
Pay attention to how many times you talk about work, someone at work, or something work related things and cut it out. If you’re always talking about work, it will seem like that all you’re about. Don’t make your career your identity. If it is, it’s time you venture off and do things outside of work.
2. Don’t Pay to Play
Paying for a man can be emasculating. Let him pay, regardless of whether or not you make more money. If he asks you to pay, there’s something wrong with that picture. Perhaps he’s not that into you, and more into your money. Remember Bills, Bills, Bills by Destiny’s Child? If he does even half the things she talks about in this song, let him go and move onto the next!
3. Dress for the date
Dressing for the boardroom and the boardwalk are two very different outfits. If you show up to a date in an outfit you would wear to work, you might make him feel like he’s on a date with his “boss” rather than his future “wife.”
4. Bedroom not Boardroom
Successful women are assertive and have learned leadership skills. They often tend to make this a prominent part of their personality in all walk of their lives. Be mindful of this, especially in the bedroom. He’s with you because you are a women- and women are feminine, soft, nurturing, loving and vulnerable. Unleash your inner damsel in distress in the bedroom and really, make him feel like the king of the castle.