While your unique and quirky habits might charm yourself or your friends, they’re probably not the first thing you should lead with when trying to meet someone online. Your dating profile is your first impression, a snapshot of your personality you’re putting out into the world. Every detail is crucial, as potential dates will analyze the important facets of your personality. To make the best impression, these are some things that just shouldn’t be a part of your dating profile:
- Political views Sure, your political views are important, but unless you’ve vowed never to date a Republican, save it for a later conversation.
- Pets If your pet is so important it’s in your profile picture, potential dates will wonder if they’ve even got a chance. Don’t be a crazy cat lady.
- Buddies Does every picture you show include a tight group of friends? Does your potential date have any reason to think dating would be different?
- Causes Being socially aware is great but it can make you seem selfless and too involved with saving the world. You are more than a cause; promote yourself, not one idea.
- Fantasies Your dreams and wishes are something you want to share with that special someone, not millions of perfect strangers online. If all you talk about is your hopes, dreams, aspirations and fantasies, potential dates will wonder about your sense of reality.
- Kids Sure, if you’re a single parent your kids are the most important thing in your life. Potential mates might feel a bit intimidated by that. Your profile should define you as a potential soul mate, not just a parent, and anyone with a kid or baby picture on their dating profile can come off as being too baggage-heavy and looking for a stepparent, instead of a lover.
- Work, work, work Sure, almost everyone works, and it’s great to mention that fact to put you ahead of the ones who don’t, but it doesn’t (harsh fact of life). On the other hand, talking about your work as if it’s the most important thing in your life is a big mistake. It will make you seem like a workaholic who doesn’t make time to have fun.
- Lies Use your own picture, describe your true body type (not the one you used to have, or are working towards. Truthfully talk about your real living circumstances. You’ll eventually meet offline for a real date, they’ll find out anyway, and rather than coming off as being shady and insincere, tell the truth and show your honest character right from the beginning.